Play sex games and improve your relationship. Part V – Enjoy to self touch
You’ve got to realize that self-touch is a good manner of learning to feel more confident. You’ll start to be more confident in yourself, which is the very first and essential step. The therapists who are working with women who are experiencing difficulty reaching orgasms, found that the more they reach the sexual responses of their bodies, the more certain they feel about her and are becoming better in their sexuality.
So it is very important to become better with your own sexuality, starting with yourself. It’s really the first step and can you help solve a lot of problems and inhibitions.
Here’s how to proceed. Prepare yourself in advance. Make sure you have a warm comfortable place, and above all, complete privacy.
Think about any erotic thing you can use. It can be a book of fantasies, massage oil, sex toy, whatever makes you feel aroused.
Now, start slowly. You can even start by touching yourself through your clothes, and concentrate on the various sensations in a way that you like. And even more, rather than touching your genitals straight away, caress your neck, belly, nipples, lips with your fingers.
Tease yourself, just slowly undress, explore the contours of your body. Stroke and rub your pubic area and buttocks, but don’t touch yet your genitals.
Keep yourself aroused, touch yourself aroused by touching erogenous areas of your body, then start to touch your genitals. Focus on the sensations all over your body, and listen to your breathing. Make a noise if you feel like it, let yourself wander. Then start to concentrate more on your genitals, but don’t go too fast, resist the urge to masturbate to orgasm. If you are getting too excited, just slow down. Pretend that you are teasing a lover, and keep yourfel on the brink of orgasm for 20-30 minutes.
When you have reached orgasm, don’t jump up and get dressed. Instead, lie back, just enjoy the post-orgasmic feelings of relaxation. Close your eyes and concentrate on breathing deeply. Move your palms in big circles around your belly, maybe have a little nap.
Then change your routine, be experimental when you masturbate. Do things that you wouldn’t normally do. Touch yourself with different textures. Masturbate in front of a mirror, looking at yourself from different angles. Describe what you are doing out loud. Masturbate with the other hand. Do it in the unusual place. Be inventive. And remember: No one is watching you.
This is really an act of sex-love. Make this occasion for giving yourself a sensual time. Don’t hesitate to add massage oil or a vibrator, if this is what you feel like.