Play sex games and improve your relationship. Part IV – Sensual Massages
The skin is the body’s most under-exploited sex organ. The massage can be used as a highly effective way to turn your partner on.
Massaging your woman/man is a incomparable way to feel close, create and experience blissful sensations and raise passion.
Massage can be either just a sensual exercise or a preliminary to sex.
Contrary to the popular belief, you don’t need any particular skills in order to perform sensual massage, only your hands and a vivid imagination.
A good idea is to have a box containing your “massage tools”. It can contain various things such as different kinds of fabrics, household items, basically, anything that can be used as a tactile object. Pick objects that feel soft and cushioned, such as silk scarves, feathers, gentle make-up brushes and furry materials but include things that provoke novel sensations as well.
For instance, a rubber eraser, a hairbrush, a rolling pin, a gem stone, a golf ball, a furry (clean) paint roller, some silky pebbles, some plastic food wrap, a thread, a string of beads, a stick, a fork, a piece of leather. With that assortiment, you are ready to test your partner senses.
Ask your partner to first lie on her/his back and put on a blindfold so that he can concentrate entirely on the sensations he is just about to experience. Tell him he is going to experiment many tactile sensations. Begin to stroke him with the make-up brush on her/his temples, then her/his buttocks, then go down to the soles of her/his feet. The following should be as creative as possible. For example, drag the fork gently across her/his chest. Try tiny picks with the stick all over the body. Caress the genitals with the leather piece. Press the pebbles into the palms of her/his hands. Make him lie on her/his chest and massage the backs of her thighs with the rolling pin.
Make the experience as interactive as possible. Ask questions such as:
“Can you feel it here?”
“Do you like that?”
“Can you feel this?”
“Which do you like best?”
Part of the fun is asking the recipient to try to guess what the massage toy is (and seeing her/his face when he finds out afterwards).
It’s also an chance to find out which parts of your lover’s body are most and least receptive to several types of touch. Its definitely valuable information that you can use later when you make love.
The important guidelines for giving a massage are: keep touching the skin with your hands as much as possible, and ask for feedback, never do anything that might be painful. Using massage oil on your hands can make your strokes good and smooth.
You don’t need to be an expert to give a good massage: when stroking, just remember to use deep kneading pressure on muscular areas such as the thighs, buttocks, back and shoulders, and gentle feathering strokes on delicate areas such as the belly, joits and face. When unsure, just use a gentle gliding stroke with flat hands all over the body.
One powerful exercise to know better your partner and having a great sex session is to take a clock, start massaging your partner during exactly 15 minutes, then ask her/him to massage you for 15 minutes too. After this, be sure that you will both be very excited and have great sex.
This can be a very good exercise especially when you have sex with a person that you don’t know very much, because it will allow both of you to discover the other person’s body without any embarassment. And a massage is always very easy to propose.
Next article will talk about touching yourself, and how it can help you a lot in your sex life.