Play sex games and improve your relationship. Part II – Losing your inhibitions
Losing your inhibitions will often be one of the most complicate obstacle to overcome. So you need to prepare a few things.
You shouldn’t even play sex games the first times. Rehearsal is good, if you feel nervous. There is no law to say that you can’t take time to explore your fantasies. You might start by simply talking them through. That way you will feel safe. And when you see that nothing awful happens, then you will be a little bolder next time.
Just because you rehearse something sexually does not mean that it must be artificial. Actually, if it feels that way, then you may need to take things very slowly. The whole point about anything sexual, be it quick or slow, is that it should feel good.
Going into new sex ideas slowly, so they are graduated built, is a way of reassuring both yourself and a nervous lover.
When it comes to have sex, the most overlooked thing you can improve is the place where you will have sex.
It’s not just your own actions that make a sexual encounter special, it is also the ambiance of the room that you are using. You can use special drapes, special colors, use a few accessories like candles or roses petals. Don’t let your bedroom be the usual shabby room, with a broken-down wardrobe in one corner, and a pile of magazines in the other. So set the scene carefully, make a few effort to prepare your evening.
We often worry about what we look like during sex. Rather than giving ourselves up to the moment, an inner voice says things like, “I must look ridiculous”. We can fall into the trap of feeling anxious about how we smell, taste or sound. All of these concerns has an influence on us, and this is why some people don’t want to make love with the light on. Some people don’t want to make love in certain positions. Some people don’t want to accept certain sexual act, whereas they would enjoy it.
So you need to learn to love your body the way it is. You might want to make an effort to keep your body in shape. Also, don;t be too harsh on yourself, nobody can have the perfect body, even the highest paid models. Also ask yourself, do you really scrutinize you partner’s body during sex? If you don’t, then isn’t it highly unlikely that they will do it to you?
Anyway, your inhibitions will require time to lose, and rehearsal will be important to help you. Another important point will be the way you dress. Again most of people don’t pay enough attention ot it, we discuss it in our next article.